Spencerport Central School District

Tips for supporting children after a traumatic event in the news:

When there is a major news event or tragedy, your child will very likely hear about it when they go to school the next day. Inform your child of the basic facts of the event before they go to school, and especially before they hear variations from other children. Do not share graphic detail or elaborations.

• Encourage your children to talk, if they wish, and listen to their concerns.
• Answer questions truthfully and at a level appropriate to your child’s level of understanding. It is okay not to have an answer to “why it happened”.
• Make sure your child knows that they are safe, but do not give false reassurance.
• Limit exposure to media, conversations or upsetting details about the event.
• Do not share your own fears in your child’s presence.
• Check in with them again when they get home to clarify misunderstandings or rumors and answer questions.
• Check with your child’s school on how they are handling the news event and what support they are providing students. Your child’s school may put something in place with their counseling staff or they may have contacted another agency in the community to assist them.
• Familiarize yourself with the school emergency plan.
• Have a family emergency plan and practice it with your children.
• Reactions such as increased fearfulness, nightmares, or separation anxiety are not unusual and generally go away with basic support. If your child continues to show emotional or behavioral changes, contact your child’s primary care provider or a mental health professional who is experienced in helping children cope with traumatic events.

If your child develops fears or is afraid to go to school:

• Reassure them that they are safe and that there is no danger at their school, and that the event is over.
• Consider accompanying them into school for a day or two if you can.
• Alert their teacher and/or counselor that they are fearful.
• Remember – your children take their cues from you – be calm and reassuring.